The Stories of You, Control Your Life

The stories you tell yourself about the world are the most powerful predictor of how you will act.

Often, we learned these stories, when our life was not in our control. When we're children and young, our stories dictate our life, and our lives are dictated by our parents/caregivers.

What we do is rarely under our direct control when we're young, but that's when we develop the stories that run in the background for the rest of our lives.

Most change and coaching programs then teach you how to "Get Control" and take "Personal Responsibility" backed by some good ol' Accountability.

These techniques are definitely better than feeling that your life is out of your control, but by trying to control what you consciously can think of, you limit yourself as to what is possible.

What's possible is the ability to be Free from the Stories that have been holding you back, so you can Trust yourself, without the constant need to "control," without the need to constantly monitor whether or not you're doing it right.

This is how you start to build true knowledge, trust, and confidence in your Self. Without that implicit trust, you instead feel that you just have a 24/7 job of trying to control.

But there is an easier and, in my opinion, better way to change.

Don't get me wrong, you will still need some motivation to change and some self-discipline, in order to take control, take personal responsibility, and there will be some moments where you will have to consciouly take control of your Self and lean on some accountability, but those are the small aspects - they shouldn't be the main components of change.

Because, the question becomes, when was the last time you've trusted yourself to act the way you want, in the moment, without feeling like you have to "force yourself," to do so?

That is True Freedom. That is True Peace of Mind.
And it all starts with seeing, understanding, and accepting your Stories.

There are a few methods to do this and during my coaching, I am able to quickly help people make these changes, by teaching them how to emotionally change their stories, to change their emotional interpretations, which takes away their fears and allows them to both have more freedom and peace of mind.

If you're ready to change (or even if you're just curious), let's set up a quick call to see if it'd be a good idea for us to work together.

Cheers,
J Damien.