Why People Really Read an "About Me"
When you read an "About Me" on a Coaching website, what do you want to really know? Usually, it boils down to two things:
1: Does this person match with "my style?" Meaning, "do our personalities mesh?"
2: Can this person help me?
The first question: Does this person match with "my style?"
Listen, I live in NYC and grew up in the area. I speak rather bluntly, but at my core I am kind. I am not a "nice guy," because nice guys tend to be transactional, but I always want what's best for the person I'm dealing with.
But the bottom line is if you can't take an occasional curse word in general, then this probably isn't going to work.
Beyond that, I fucking love learning. I'm constantly learning and reading things related to coaching or change in general. Currently, I'm reading two books:
Before You Know It: The Unconscious Reasons We Do What We Do by John Bargh, PhD, and
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
The books I've read over the years are a veritable library into the mind of how and why we do the things we do.
I do this because I've been obsessed with two questions for at least the past 25+ years:
1: "How and why do people do the things they do?" And…
2: "How do people change?"
This obsession started because growing up with an alcoholic stepfather, and being the oldest, it seemed like I constantly had to be on guard. There were a lot of fucked up things I experienced and that would have been fine, if I didn't see myself going down the same paths, building shame that I became like someone I fucking despised. My late teens, 20's, and early 30's were filled with more mistakes than I'd care to share (but could).
I kept falling into the same patterns, where I would want to change, be good for a bit, until there was a tipping point, and then fuck up, and then be drown in shame.
It was either that or playing life so small that I wouldn't even allow myself to make a fucking mistake.
Neither was ideal. Yet throughout that time, I was constantly searching for the answers.
Which leads to the second question:
Can this person help me?
Short answer, most likely. I'm confident I can help anyone.
Not only do I have the real world experience of overcoming awful bullshit, but have combined that personal experience with the constant learning and experimentation (things listed below) that has led to having the Tools and Techniques to help the lives of the clients I work with.
The bottom line is, I will learn a shit-ton of things, to only take one nugget away. That nugget though is fucking golden. It may only apply to one client, in one particular situation, but it's worth it. Knowing how and why the mind works, and helping someone to overcome their own blocks, to step into who they want to be, even if they're not entirely sure they can, is exactly why I'm there.
Therefore, if you're ready, or even if you're only maybe, possibly considering a change and think I can help you, either sign-up for a quick call or purchase the Intro Plan and have a couple of real coaching calls to see if it's for you.
Contact Me
Have any questions? Feel free to email or text using the information provided below.
Note: If you purchase any coaching package, you have 15-days to ask for a full refund. If it's not working for you, or if you think I'm not helping you in the way that I want, you can get your money back.
(917) 409-8094
Text us on this number
Email this address: Click Here
Below is a short-list of course I've taken (post graduation) besides majoring in Psychology:
- ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) that’s focused on Values and Value-Based Actions,
- CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) about how to shift your thinking to what is logical,
- DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) that works with being able to Pause and practice different ways of being, knowing that two things can seem contradictory but both can be true at the same time,
- SDT (Self-Determination Theory) and the 5 different levels of Motivation,
- Schema Therapy that deals with Parts, Schemas, and Modes, to
- EET (Emotional Efficacy Therapy) that teaches you how to “Emotionally surf,” to
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT – different than the one below) that deals with attachments and being able to improve relationships by becoming more securely attached, to
- Non-Violent Communication (NVC) that deals with the 4 steps of the Situation without judgement, your Feelings linked to your Needs, and making a Positive Action Request, amongst others.
- Solution Focused Brief Therapy dealing with the "Magic Question," and how that has the ability to focus on what you want and what works, as opposed to what doesn't work.
I've worked with and got Coaching certificates:
- IFS (Internal Family Systems) Coaching that deals with Parts work and the multiplicity of our inner world, and how to allow for all the parts to be present and to be heard,
- Lefkoe Belief System
- Gottman Method Couples Therapy: Both Level 1 and 2 certifications
- Currently working on Treating Affairs and Trauma.
Beyond that, I worked and gained knowledge on a wide number of theories and practices ranging from:
- Breathwork, to
- EFT tapping,
- Somatic work, to
- Core Transformation,
- NLP,
- Integrative Hypnosis Practices.
These are the "non-standard" practices that are sometimes "looked down upon" by the establishment, despite the fact that there is a ton of research showing how effective these things can be.
This doesn't count all the other stuff from Habit formation, Mindsets, Beliefs, Re-conditionings, Reframing, and the like that is present in a number of these modalities.
I list these, because I want you to know I come with a depth and breadth of knowledge that is built from real world experience with clients, personal experience going through my own transformation and hell, and the "standards" and even "fringe" modalities of how and why people can change.
The point is, I believe I can help you. The question is, are you willing to give it a shot?
My hope for you, and anyone I work with: You feel secure in your Self, no matter the situation you find yourself in.
This doesn’t mean you will always be absolutely certain as to what you should do or say – that’s not the point. The point is that no matter what life were to give you, you know that you can deal and heal whatever you need to within yourself, and therefore, anything good in the world, truly feels like the gift it is.
In doing so, you can not only push yourself to places you might have feared to in the past, but also live life from a place of appreciation on a more regular basis.
This allows you to stay true to the you, who you want to be, while burning away the bullshit that isn’t you.
You recognize what "Enough" is for you, so you can actually enjoy and appreciate what you have.
In doing so, you have the power to control the most important thing in your life – Your Self.
So again, are you willing to give Coaching a shot?
A. It's why I offer a lowered cost Intro Coaching Call plan for $497 for FOUR, 90-Minute Coaching Calls.
Click here for the link.
B. If that's too much, send me an email or text, so we can set up a quick 15 minute call to see, in real time if it'd be a good fit.
C. Know if you purchase any coaching package, you have 15-days to ask for a full refund
If you any questions or comments for me, please feel free to let me know at [email protected] or by texting me at (917) 409-8094
Wishing you Strength, Peace, Excitement, Love, Growth, and a Life You Appreciate,
J. Damien
Intro "Test" Plan
$197 (one-time)
Two, 90-Minute Coaching Calls
Only for New Clients
(Can only be used once)
Best Used for a Specific Issue that's been bothering you, that you feel you can fix in a couple of Coaching Calls, or as a...
Intro to Life Coaching, to see if it's a good fit for you, or if I'm a good fit for you.
I'm Committed Plan
$597/month
4-Month Commitment.
Four, 90-Min Calls per month
Life Coaching Specializing in Self-Confidence, Relationship Dynamics, or Habits, or Health.
Set yourself up for success by committing to a longer-term plan
Proven System for Changing
Gain access to videos and assignments specific for what you're trying to change
Individualized Coaching to help you maintain the overall picture and your next step
4 Coaching Calls per Month, to keep you on track
Self Confidence U Group Program
$397/month
13-Week Group Coaching Program
The Complete Toolkit to Know, Like, and Trust All the Different Parts of You
-
12 Group Coaching Calls held at the same time every week
-
Full email access to answer any and all questions you may have
-
Build Authentic Confidence in Your "Self"
-
Lifetime Access to the Full Program
Contact
Have any questions? Feel free to email or text using the information provided below.
(917) 409-8094
Text us on this number
Email this address: Click Here
For More Information, Click on the Free Resources Below:
Self-Confidence U 13-Week Group Coaching Program
What is Confidence? It's being able to be Authentically Aligned, which only happens when you Know, Like, and Trust "All of Your Self" - Your Mind, Body, and Heart.
1. Know Your Self: Who are you beyond your fears.
2. Like Your Self: What do you like to do and allowing yourself the permission to do that?
3. Trust Your Self: Will you say and do what you truly want from yourself?
$397/ month for 3 months. 1 Group Coaching Call (limited to 10 people) on Tuesdays at 7:45 pm EST. Teaches you the Tools to grow Confident in your "Self."
Habit Change U Primer Course
Up to 40% of Your Time is Spent in "Habit Mode." You Should Be in Control of Your Habits. This Course Will Make that Happen
You'll have 7 days to complete all 5 of the lessons inside this mini-course (About 40 minutes of content). 👉 If you do, you'll keep access for LIFE so you can Take Control of Your Habits.
Click on the picture above or here for the Free Course!
$99 Value, but yours for Free!
Free 15-30 Minute Coaching Consultation Call
Not sure if I'm the right coach, if I can help you specifically, then schedule a call and let's talk in person. This can be a regular phone call or, preferred, a Zoom call.
Let me answer all your questions before starting any coaching.
Email me at [email protected] or text me at (917) 409-8094.
Copyright © 2021 - 2025. J Damien Coaching. All rights reserved.