Break Free From Your Past,
Step Into a Future You Authentically Design
1. Building Inner Confidence in Yourself: Confidence comes down to 5 Main Areas:
1. Breaking Free from the Patterns of Your Past
2. Knowing Who You Authentically Are,
3. Understanding the Values You want to live by,
4. Owning Your Limitations, and
5. Building the Skills to be Competent Out in the World.
What would change if you had an unshakeable confidence in yourself?
2. Habit and Mindset Coaching: Coaching to break habits that no longer serve you or build the habits to move closer to the life you want to live. Controlling your habits helps you control your life. For the past 15+ years, I've helped people change their habits for good.
Who could you be if you mastered your actions and habits?
3. Health Coaching: Improving your physical health, by creating the systems and having the accountability to stick to a workout program and/or a healthier eating plan come down to changing the stories you have about them, building the skills to implement the actions you want, and reframing how you see those things.
How would your life improve if you felt good about your health and body?
4. Improving Your Communication and Relationships:
A. Heal from your past: Good relationships start with a Healthy Relationship with Your "Self."
Knowing how to handle stuff from your past helps you deal with the situation at hand, and not add the messiness from your past to the current situation. If you don't heal from your past, then when you get "triggered" you'll expect someone else to deal with yours primary responsibility (you). You can ask for help (and probably should), have others who can support you throughout, but your past is your responsibility first and foremost.
The Skills Here are:
I. Understanding and coming to peace with the Stories/Beliefs of your past.
II. Learning to Emotionally Regulate yourself when stressed
III. Understanding Your Patterns of "Protection" from your past, which are the actions you default to when you're stressed.
B. Build Communication Skills: These skills are what should have been taught at home or at school, as they can change your life.
This starts with having consideration for the people you care for in your life, even when they're making you feel vulnerable.
The Skills Here are:
I. Understanding Your Feelings and Needs
II. Putting Your Feelings and Needs into words
III. Making Honest Requests and Explaining Your Stories as towhy you might need extra consideration.
C. Put These Skills Into Action on a Consistent Basis: Learning a skill is one thing. The hard thing is to put it into practice on a consistent basis, which means, building a System to do so.
The Skills Here are:
I. Understanding Your Personality and Priorities in the next 6 months.
II. Understanding Keystone Actions and Habits to Build.
III. Prioritizing practicing the most important actions for the health of your relationship.
What Others Have Said About Coaching...
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What is the Goal of Life Coaching?
Life coaching is similar in style to therapy with a few big differences. We talk, you tell me what's going on and we figure out solutions.
1. Often people go to therapy to fix a problem to get to baseline.
People in coaching can also do the same, but there are people who also want to go from a baseline and strive to achieve their potential.
It's like the difference between physical therapy, where someone injured tries to get back to a baseline versus personal training, which can help with that, but also to do things they wouldn't do on their own.
That's what coaching is often geared for - to go where you wouldn't go on your own.
This can be with gaining more confidence, striving towards a career that is fulfilling for you, or improving your relationship to something better than you thought was possible.
2. There is no diagnosis.
I'm not qualified, nor do I have any desire to even surmise what your "diagnosis" for anything might be.
For example, you might say "I have anxiety," which cool. What I will say is that you're nervous and you're trying to fix your nervousness. That I can work with. Anxiety is too large of a concept, but taking a specific instance can help you fix your anxiety.
A diagnosis I can't fix, although I have helped people with high anxiety, and depression, etc, but I've never diagnosed them or set out to fix that diagnosis. I set out to help an actual problem that someone was having.
3. Coaching entails a trusted environment where you're not judged, where you're open to share, and where you can be seen, understood, and honored for what has happened to you or what you're thinking. The more trust you have in me, the more that you have the ability to move towards the life you want.
The Goal of Life Coaching
To help you move towards the life, and the person, you most want to be - your "Favorite Self." Someone you Know, Like, and Trust, who you have a good time with, where you show yourself inner resilience and self compassion, while upholding standards that you respect.
This is what Life Coaching is to me.
If this is part of what you're looking for, then I invite you to at least set-up a Free call with me.
Text me at (917) 409-8094
or Email me at [email protected]
What's My Style?
My style consists of being upfront, highly knowledgeable on tons of change techniques, and being non-judgmental.
The goal is to obviously work on why you want to coach, but knowing that why you start is not the ultimate reason as to why you're held back.
The goal is to better understand the parts of yourself, and the stories of how you see the world. By bringing more inner peace to your stories, you're more free to stop acting from "Survival Strategies," which is how you learned to naturally react for years and sometimes decades. By doing that you can move from where you're at to be confident and act with integrity.
Once you do that (or if you're not starting there), then it's time to start to step into who you want to be. This includes understanding your Values, your personality, how to continually feel safe within, and identifying the goals and vision to feel fulfilled in the different areas of your life.
Finally, it's about building the skills and systems to make that vision a reality, out in the real world.
My style is simple: Clear the bullshit standing in your way, know how you authentically want to show up in the world to feel fulfilled, and then turn that into a reality "out in the world."
We start where you're at and proceed from there.
To set up a free call, click the button below:
Intro "Test" Plan
$149 (one-time)
Two, 90-Minute Coaching Calls
Only for New Clients
(Can only be used once)
Best for a Specific Issue that's been bothering you, that you feel you can fix in a few Coaching calls, or as a...
Intro to Life Coaching, to see if it's a good fit for you, or if I'm a good fit for you.
Monthly Coaching Plan
$599/month
Four, One-on-One 90-Minute Coaching Calls per month
Life Coaching Specializing in Self-Confidence, Relationship or Communication Skills, or Habit Building
Set yourself up for success by committing to consistent coaching calls
Proven System for Changing
Gain access to videos and assignments specific for what you're trying to change
Individualized Coaching to hold you accountable, while learning the skills to get out of your own way and live the life you want
Four, 90-Minute Coaching Calls per Month
Hybrid Program
$149/month
One (1), One-on-One call per month AND Four (4) Group Coaching Calls per month
This is like getting 4 Group Coaching Calls for Free!
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Access to recordings of all the Group Coaching Calls if you can't make it live
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Full email access to answer any and all questions you may have throughout the program
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Understand the 5 step process to improve in any area of your life
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Lifetime Access to all the Recorded Coaching Calls
Not Ready to Commit to Purchasing?
Let's Book a Free Call so I can answer any questions and get clarity on any doubts you may have.
Let's work together if...
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You've tried to change, "so many times" and "nothing has seemed to work," and you're ready to change that.
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You're ready to build the Knowledge, Trust and Confidence within your Self, and learn the skills to bring you back to that Confidence, once and for all.
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You want to actually Break a Habit (or Build a Habit) without feeling like you're at constant war with your Self.
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You've recognized that "you might be the problem," and despite knowing that, you still keep doing the same things, over and over again. You're ready to change that and meet with lasting success.
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You keep falling into patterns of some success, followed by patterns where everything "falls apart," and you want to break that pattern.
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There is a health habit or behavior, that you haven't been able to stick to over the long-term, no matter how hard you've tried. You're ready to change that.
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You want a way to change more permanently with less stress and less internal "drama."
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You're willing to commit to bettering your Self. This will require showing up to the calls, being ready to be completely honest and open (not only with me, but with yourself), where you spend a little time every day reflecting, and are willing to invest in creating who you Want to Be.
Client Testimonial
With❤️from clients
"You are AMAZING! Encouraging, extremely patient, an awesome motivator. I will forever be grateful and thankful for having you in my life. We fear unlocking those doors, walking through them, and seeing/admitting to what we have done or what was done to us, but once we have mustered up the Courage to do so, FREEDOM!"
~ Malkia C.
Contact Me
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Small Variable Theory of Change Video
People often think change has to be large.
The truth is being aware of your small variables and then learning to have "discipline" in just a few small moments per day can lead to large changes.
By understanding those "Inflection Points" throughout the day, and making the smallest of different choices there, can have large consequences for your life and lead you to a vastly different destination.
Check out the YouTube video and channel for more information.
Free Intro and Chapter 1
Break Free From the Prison of Your Past: Understand Your Ego’s Stories and Survival Strategies to Reconnect with Who You Authentically Are
People strive to change in one of two main ways:
1. By changing how you feel about what's happened to you.
2: By stepping into who you ultimately want to be.
👉 This book is about Breaking free from your past, by understanding that we have different parts of us, that need to be understood (your Stories), and how to change your automatic reactions (your Survival Strategies).
Click on the picture, or here to get the Intro and chapter 1, for Free!
Free 15-30 Minute Coaching Consultation Call
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This can be a regular phone call or, preferred, a Zoom call to see if I can help you and wha tyou're specifically looking to change.
Let me answer all your questions before starting any coaching.
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